Your divorce ends your marriage, but, if you have a child, it doesn’t completely dismantle your family. Your child is always going to be a link between you and your ex.
Some experts have said that one of the best things you can do for your child is to work out a custody agreement and a parenting plan that allows you all to have time together. This is best for the child’s growth, development and emotional well-being.
This doesn’t mean you have to do everything together, as if you’d never split up. Though some couples go camping together, take family trips, and go on vacations even after divorce, that can be very hard for others. That’s understandable.
However, there are events in a child’s life where it makes sense for both people to be there. When your child has a birthday, for instance, having a party that you both attend may be helpful. When your child graduates from high school, you both want to be in the stands. When your child has a football game, a piano recital or a theatrical performance, you both want to be there to show your support.
The goal of a child custody arrangement is to consider the child’s best interests. You’re not legally obligated to spend time with your ex, of course. There may be reasons that it’s the last thing you want.
However, just keep in mind how this may benefit your child when working out your plan. At the same time, remain focused on your rights and obligations as a parent. Stay committed to crafting the best possible plan for all involved.
Source: Huffington Post, “The Best Gift Divorced Parents Can Give Their Kids,” Amy Arndt, accessed June 02, 2017
