When couples marry in New Hampshire, they usually do so with romantic, idealistic notions of lifelong happiness, fidelity and unity. All too often, though, those rosy goals are dashed when reality intrudes. If that does happen, some couples demonstrate much more resilience and fortitude than others.
Spouses may cheat on each other, squabble a lot, drift apart, then decide to throw in the towel for good on their relationship. If both partners sincerely have their heart in it, they can pursue counseling and move forward on a renewed footing.
Forgiveness does not always come readily or quickly — if it comes at all. There is no fast, linear path to resolving certain marital roadblocks. Even so, if there is still love there, hope exists for a viable future together.
The nature of what went awry and why also matters. Superficial problems can be red flags that point to deeper underlying issues that have been festering unaddressed for a long time. According to research, about half of the wedded couples in this country wind up divorcing. That is a truly remarkable number.
Reasons that prompt married people to split up
The reasons for permanent break-ups are numerous, but some are more typical than others. This is just a representative sampling of them:
- One partner changes physically, and the other finds them less attractive
- Power battles over things both great and small
- Financial issues and disparate attitudes towards money
- Communication issues on one or both sides
- Intimacy obstacles
- Arguing seemingly non-stop
- One partner is emotionally involved with someone else
Saying goodbye forever
Deciding to marry is one of the biggest choices you will ever make. Deciding to divorce is equally serious. If your marriage is beyond healing – although it is undoubtedly agonizing – divorce can be liberating and ultimately healthier than remaining in a soured union. Just be sure you are guided by someone you can count upon as you immerse yourself in the divorce process.